Is Your Sex Life Struggling in Midlife? You’re Not Alone. Have you ever thought, “Is this it?” when it comes to sex in midlife? Maybe intimacy feels awkward, your libido has disappeared, or it just… hurts. If so, you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone. In this honest and eye-opening conversation, I’m joined by certified sex educator and coach Karen Bigman to talk about the real changes that happen in our sex lives during perimenopause and menopause—and what you can actually do about it.
Whether you're in a long-term relationship that’s lost its spark or rediscovering your own pleasure solo, this episode will give you validation, encouragement, and practical ideas to reconnect with your sexuality—without pressure or shame.
Karen Bigman is the dynamic host of the podcast, Taboo to Truth: Life and Sex After 50. With a passion for empowering women and men, Karen is on a mission to break down barriers and liberate us to engage in open conversation about midlife sexuality. Karen’s personal journey of divorce, dating, and menopause inspired her to become a Certified
Sexuality Educator and Certified Menopause Coach. She launched her podcast as a safe
space to explore topics that are often thought about, yet rarely spoken about. Through candid, and often raw conversations, Karen helps her audience navigate an overlooked aspect of aging by offering education, support, and a dash of humor, to more easily embrace sexuality.
In this episode:
- Why sex changes during perimenopause and menopause (and what’s totally normal)
- The top three reasons your libido might be MIA
- What to do if sex has become painful, awkward, or emotionally disconnected
- Why communication is everything—and how to actually start the conversation
- How midlife men experience sexual changes (and what they wish you knew)
- The truth about responsive vs. spontaneous desire—and how to bridge the gap
- Creative ways to bring back intimacy (hello, “sex snacks” and six-second kisses!)
Resources Mentioned:
Karen Bigman’s Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/
Link to Freebie: https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook
Connect with me, Dr. Sara Poldmae:
Website: https://risingwomanproject.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsarapoldmae
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